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Let’s Do Better

At some point, we all have to make an effort to improve our quality of life. It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen over night but we need to do it if we want to continue to grow and improve. This past Sunday I watched a sermon from Church of Highlands and one the phrases mentioned stuck out to me.

“Every day we have to choose joy.”

The reason this stuck out to me is because of the choice in wording. We have to CHOOSE joy each day. We have to make a conscious effort to walk in joy each and everyday. Emotions run high, life hits us hard, and we all struggle. That’s why making the choice to walk in joy is so important.

I’m a glass half full type of person. Unfortunately, that side of my personality clashes with my depression and anxiety. I’m usually stuck somewhere in between believing everything will work out and thinking nothing ever will! Ugh! That’s exactly why this message touched home for me. Every time I operated with the intent to stay positive no matter how my day went I saw a change. The way I viewed situations was different. I wasn’t approaching each one thinking about how bad things were, but instead thinking on how it could have been worse but wasn’t.

This is why being intentional is important. It’s not easy to shrug off financial issues, mental health problems, car problems, relationships issues, etc. These are things that could make anyone crawl back into their hole of depression. The key is to put effort into not letting these things color who you are and how to continue to operate. I’m not telling you not to feel. Cry or scream if you need to but keep pushing forward. Keep going even when it’s hard and decide to walk in joy!

Pastor Chris Hodges brought up something that really made me smile and reconsider some things. Tigger from Winnie the Pooh is so positive about his outlook. A Tigger can do anything, a Tigger is great at everything! Tigger doesn’t go into a situation doubting his ability to do it. Even when he fails at it he doesn’t sweat it, he tries again, until he can do it. That innocence allows him to see the world in a different way. At some point that was us! We believed in our ability and our potential. It’s not too late to start believing again.

I think it’s important to start reorganizing our lives in a way that allows us to live up to our potential. Steve Harvey always talks about a vision board and I believe it’s important to have one. Yes having the board is a great idea but what I want to emphasize is the vision. Some of us have gotten so caught up existing that we aren’t living anymore. Stress has become an accessory for so many people and we wear it every day. We need vision again. We need drive. We need a willingness to let go and let God. Let’s make more of an effort to be intentional. Take time to reorganize your life, your mind, your spirit, and CHOOSE to walk in joy.

Let’s do better 💕

Let me know what your vision is? What’s been stopping you from walking in joy? Let me know in the comments. I hope this post has helped you in some way. Be sure to follow my blog Vitamin Key for more!

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Insecurities: It’s Okay, We All Have Them

What’s the hardest thing about learning how to be more confident? For me it was learning how to stop caring what other people thought about me. Most of us underestimate the amount of power we have given other people. Their words, their feelings, and their actions have some much influence over who we are and what we show the world. I think just about everyone has had a moment where they wanted to post a picture, but didn’t because of how they thought other people would react to it. Is this the right angle? Does this color look nice on me? Do I look fat? Does my hair look right? These are just a few questions that many of us ask ourselves before we finally post a picture.

Obviously this isn’t the case for everyone, but it serves as an example of how much we let other people influence us. I still have some insecurities about things, but I have learned that this is normal and does not devalue my self-worth. Of course you want to look your best and love what you see in the mirror, that’s normal! BUT! Is that because you dislike what you see? Or because someone else does…

Like my grandma always says, “People are gonna talk about you while you’re living and long after you’re gone.” As long as you exist there will be other people who feel like they can weigh in on who you are and what you do. You have to learn how to understand that this does not mean that their opinion is fact. There’s a reason that there is a distinction made between fact and opinion. One is the truth and the other isn’t, simple as that! You needing air to breathe is a fact. You not being beautiful is an opinion (one I wholeheartedly disagree with).

I want you to challenge yourself to love yourself more. Take time to invest in your own confidence and self-love. Everyday make an effort to love yourself a little more. Start by complimenting yourself and someone else everyday. Even if it’s just you telling yourself you did a good job at work today and commenting a compliment on social media, do it. Be consistent and watch how your confidence begins to build. Building yourself up doesn’t happen overnight and sometimes you might not even believe the compliment you gave yourself. That’s okay. Practice until you believe it. Practice until you start to see the amazing individual I know you are.

The only to combat insecurities is to change them or to embrace them. If there’s something you don’t like and you can change it, then do it. Just make sure that you are changing it because you want to change it. The quickest way to fail at something is to start it for all the wrong reasons. Doing something for other people is only good when it’s out of the kindness of your heart. There is a huge difference between donating money to charity to help others, and losing weight because other people tell you that you should.

I remember someone I follow on Instagram had lost weight due to stress. Instead of people asking her if she was okay they complimented her on how much weight she had lost. She was going through one of the roughest times in her life, and no one thought to ask her how she was doing. People associate losing weight with the word good and gaining weight with the word bad. Her weight loss had actually led to more medical issues and depression. Once she started to regain her confidence and became happier she gained weight. It wasn’t until then, that people started asking her is she was okay. She admitted that his made her start dieting excessively, but she stopped when she realized that the only reason she was doing it was to make other people happy. She didn’t have a problem with her weight, others did.

Stop giving other people power they don’t deserve. It’s okay to have insecurities, we all do. Just don’t let them be the ones other people tell you that you should have.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope this dose from Vitamin Key helped you in some way. Please don’t forget to like, share, comment, and follow me for more content. #LetsTalkAboutIt

 

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A Little Girl Talk: Messy Couch Chronicles Part 1

Hey loves! This new year has reminded me that I have to get new perspective on a lot of things in my life. A new year doesn’t mean a new you, but new opportunities to change, to grow, and to really blossom into the person you want to be. With that in mind I’m making an effort to get back into being more consistent with my blog posts. Baby steps! So it is my goal to at least post once a week.

This week I’m introducing you to one of the new segments I want to start on my YouTube channel: Messy Couch Discussions. I want this to feel like girl talk time. I am inviting you into my house and I want you to grab a seat, sip a little tea, and enjoy the fun! In this video me and my best friend discuss competitiveness among women.

Why do women feel so threatened by each other? Why do they instinctively have an issue with each other before they even get to know each other? It’s sad because when you meet a new person that is an opportunity to uplift. You can be the difference between them having the best day ever or the worst day they’ve had in a long time.

I think the reason it’s so hard for women to get along is competitiveness and a lack of self-confidence. Women grade themselves against each other and feel like other women threaten their opportunities. But that’s ridiculous! Another woman being successful is not meant to be competition but inspiration. Don’t be so worried someone else’s piece of the pie when you could be cutting your own slice. Let’s stop tearing each other down and start pushing each other forward. You could find more meaningful connections by being a source of light instead of darkness.

Please check out the video below from my YouTube channel Vitamin Key. We talk more about this topic. Do you agree? Have you had similar experiences? Were you the one judging or being judged? Let me know in the comments. #LetsTalkAboutIt !

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