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I Love My Haters

Recently I ran across an article on Revelest.com titled:

Blogger Points Out Sexist Double Standard In Wake Of Tess Holliday Cover Backlash

By Emerald Pellot

Tess Holliday, a plus size model and just overall amazing person received quite a bit of backlash over her cover on Cosmopolitan Uk. As outlined in the article, most of the flack came from people who felt her being on the cover was endorsing being obese. If you want to read the article here’s the link:

https://www.revelist.com/internet/tess-holliday-cosmopolitan-backlash/13426/of-course-piers-morgan-was-one-of-the-trolls/5

For anyone who doesn’t know, Tess has always been an advocate for body positivity and embracing herself/her body no matter what the haters say. That is the mentality behind the #effyourbeautystandards movement that she and many women (and men) around the world have started to embrace. At it’s core this movement is just about acceptance of yourself and letting other people know that regardless of what they think, you still love yourself.

I believe that it’s for that very reason, that the backlash she’s getting is so disgusting to me. Disgusting sounds like a strong word right? Well I think it fits this situation perfectly. The cover is obviously meant to promote self-love and body positivity, but people turned it into a weight issue. Let’s be honest, although people say it’s about health it’s not. In a society that has finally started to embrace more diverse types of beauty, people have looked for more politically correct ways of insulting people.

How is a woman loving the skin she’s in a way for her to promote obesity? How is she the poster girl for being unhealthy? It’s because people are threatened. They try to mask it behind “concern” for her well-being but we all know that’s not what this is about. This is about other people’s insecurities and them being uncomfortable.

As hard as it is to believe, there are people who genuinely feel offended by other people and their confidence. They have fought so hard to look a certain way or live their life a certain way so that they can finally feel accepted within society’s standards of what is an acceptable life. Then here comes a woman who has decided that she loves each and every inch of herself when all she does is live her life.

There are also those who find plus size women disgusting. They can’t fathom how anyone would want them. In their minds plus size women cannot be attractive and they should be ashamed of themselves. This type of mentality is more common than you would think. More often than not, the trolls with fake profiles are the ones who boldly leave comments like this. Others just like it and keep it moving because they are afraid of the backlash they could receive.

I can’t help but feel that their frustrations are severely misplaced and insulting. They have twisted her message of empowerment to suit their needs and I am not here for it. The reason I chose the picture I did for the featured picture is because I want people to see the cellulite, the stomach, the thighs, the scars, and the stretch marks. I want people to see my story. I love who I am and you don’t have to.

If you want to hear more about this tune into my podcast Vitamin Key. Let me know what you think. Also, don’t forget to comment, like, share, and follow!

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Stop Hating On the Confidence

I always advocate for self-confidence and body positivity because I know how important it is for people to find love for themselves. There’s nothing sadder than believing you have to ask others for permission to love yourself. I see so many people do this and when they don’t get the recognition they seek, they fall into depression. I have been in that place myself and I know just how easy it is to fall into the habit of looking to others for the approval that you can’t find within yourself.

What’s crazier is that people actually want you to seek their permission to love yourself! Have you ever noticed how people want someone who is confident, but also want them to seek their permission to be confident? They want someone who loves themselves, but they put people down if they don’t fit their criteria. People want you to look a certain kind of way, dress a certain kind of way, or live a certain kind of way in order to gain their approval. I refuse to do it and so should you. You don’t need anyone to tell you that it’s okay to love yourself.

I have seen men and women alike post a picture of themselves and take the picture down because of comments that were negative. Sometimes the comments came from total strangers and sometimes they came from people that they know. When they uploaded the picture they loved it but it only took a matter of minutes for them to lose that confidence. It’s extremely easy to sit behind a keyboard and talk badly about others, especially when you don’t even like yourself. Social media has led to what I call “troll culture”. These people make it a point to troll others and make people feel bad about themselves but guess what? Not anymore.

Take your power back! Take your confidence back! Take your self-love back! Tell the trolls to STOP HATING ON THE CONFIDENCE and find some. You weren’t put on this earth to be judged by the people around you, especially if that judgement is making you unhappy. I want people to see that I have stretch marks. I want them to see that I have fat. I want them to see that my hair is kinky. I want them to see my eczema and acne scars. I WANT PEOPLE TO SEE ME!

The reason for that is, I want others to embrace who they are without worrying about what everyone thinks. I know it’s not easy but trust me it is so worth it. You will see a lot of differences in the way that you think and act. That shirt you didn’t think you could wear? You’ll wear it. Those shoes you thought you were too tall for? You’ll wear them. The outfit you’ve put off wearing because you didn’t think you could pull it off? You will rock it and dare a hater to hate.

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I talk more on this subject in my podcast Stop Hating On the Confidence. Be sure to listen and let me know what you think. Also, don’t forget to comment, like, share, and follow!

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Team Natural

I always want people to see me in the most authentic way possible. I feel like it’s important because there are so many people quick to put out false representations of themselves in order to impress others. None of us are perfect but that’s okay! You don’t have to be. This is something I had a hard time figuring out the first time I went natural. It’s not easy to embrace things that people usually tell you are not attractive. That’s how I felt about my hair.

I can’t help the type of hair that grows out of my head but I used to hate the way it looked. Ridiculous right?! I wanted to have the loose curly hair that everyone deemed “good hair”. I didn’t like the idea of having kinkier hair. Looking back, I see how important it is to learn how to love things before letting others color your perception of it. I had already convinced myself that I should not like my hair because of what other people thought and oh how wrong I was.

Our hair is unique to us, and that uniqueness should be embraced. One thing I learned was that despite everyone having similar curl patterns and textures, no one’s hair is exactly the same. Different parts of my hair are literally different curl patterns AND textures! The back my hair is around a 4b curl pattern and the front is more of a 4c curl pattern. For those of you who don’t know what that means, see the chart below:

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The texture of my hair lies somewhere between type 6 and 7:

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Loving your hair is a journey, and not an easy one at that. I think everyone should figure what works best for them and learn to embrace what makes them happy. I’m team natural because I WANT TO BE but if you aren’t, do you hun! What matters most is that: 1. Your hair is healthy

2. You love it!

To hear me talk more about this topic, listen to my podcast called Hair: If You Like It I Love It. I talk a little more about my natural hair journey and experience. Let me know what you think. Also, don’t forget to comment, like, share, and follow.

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Unboxing Part 2 (Summer Haul)

Okay so as promised here is my post on my second unboxing but this time there’s a twist! The company I am trying out this time is Gwynnie Bee. Unlike Dia & Co., I didn’t try the full service because they are a bit pricier compared to my budget. Since I am trying the 30 day trial you can only try two things at a time. I’m not too upset about that because the way they do their boxing service is different.

With Dia & Co. you try on the five items sent in your box and get five days to try them on before sending them back. If you do not want everything in your box be sure to send back what you don’t want within the time frame. If you use Gwynnie Bee it acts an online closet of sorts. You are basically renting the clothes that you wear for a set price each month. If hearing the word rent turns you off, remember a lot of celebrities do essentially the same thing when attending events. So just think of yourself as an A-list celebrity trying on brands from different companies.

Gwynnie Bee allows you to pick items you really like online or using the app and you add them to your online closet. If you’re especially fond of something, be sure to mark it as top priority in order to increase the likelihood that it is what they send to you first. Their pricing is based on the number of items you can check out at a time. For example, to have three items out at a time means you would be paying $95 a month.

I will include a picture below of how the pricing works:

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As you can see, the pricing is not for the faint of heart but it might be worth trying first for 30 days like I did and deciding for yourself whether it is a service you want to continue. It’s my goal to try several of these types of services and give my honest opinion of it. Besides, who doesn’t the idea of shopping made easy. Just like Dia & Co., you can send these back, exchange them, and buy them a lower retail price if you fall in love with it.

Now, time for the juicy stuff! When you receive your box it should come in a box like this:

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Purple is my favorite color so I was oddly excited that my return bag was purple. Inside the box is a cute little letter, the purple return bag, and your clothes are wrapped in purple tissue paper. For my first box, I opted for two dresses. One is a denim dress and the other is a light almost washed out blue colored dress.

This is the denim dress:

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Here is the other dress:

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On the models both of these dresses seemed like great additions to my wardrobe. The reviews on the first dress were mixed so I decided it would be best to see for myself. I was not completely against the idea of liking it because I’ve been wanting a dress like it for a while now. The second dress had virtually no good reviews. Most of the reviews I read either centered on the fact that the corset-belt was not tight enough around the waist of the dress or they felt that the dress made them look shapeless. I held fairly high hopes for the first dress and just sent up a prayer for the second one.

Item #1- Plenty dress by Tracy Reese

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Pros:
The dress itself is well made and the color is identical to the picture on the website. I also feel that if you have a fuller bosom, this dress would compliment it well and emphasize the cleavage. If you have a little more to love around the midsection, do not be afraid of this dress. It is fairly roomy in the stomach area so it will probably hug your belly without making it the focal point of your outfit.

Cons:

As you can see, this dress fit me nothing like it did the model. This dress was the one I was most excited for but did not end up liking. At first I thought maybe I had ordered a size too big but some areas were a little snug while others were loose. If I had gone down a size, I’m sure that it would be too tight. Sizing aside, the fit itself is a bit problematic. I believe that part of it has to do with my shape. The bottom half of the dress fit fairly well but the top half of the dress swallowed me. Despite my wide hips, my waist is somewhat small in comparison. This means that even though the dress was able to accommodate my hips, it was not made to fit a waist that is not as wide as the hips themselves. Some people disliked the split so I’ll mention. I personally didn’t find this to be very problematic.

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Pros:

If you can’t tell by my poses, I was getting my life in this dress! It gave me a medieval feel mixed with a little bit of flower child. Although some people felt that this dressed swallowed them up, I felt that it fit my body just right. There are three types of dresses that I love: flowy, body-con, and maxi. This dress had all the frills and flow I could want. It didn’t feel baggy on me or heavy. The material was nice and surprisingly had very little wrinkles on it. The dress had a very feminine feel to it and made me feel girly (contrary to popular belief, I am definitely a tomboy). If you have larger breast and don’t feel the need to emphasize your rear-end this dress leaves a good deal of room up top. I feel that one of the biggest pros is that this dress is diverse. It can fit in a lot of different style categories.

Cons:

The belted part does not tighten so if you are looking for a more cinched look, this dress is not the one for you. The color of the dress is also a little darker than the one the model is wearing.

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Final Verdict:

I definitely feel that it is worth trying the 30 day trial. Getting the subscription itself is still to be determined. The biggest factor turning me away from investing in this service is the price range. While the items you receive are of great quality, the pricing is not feasible if you are on a tight budget. I also feel that the selection of items is fairly limited in terms of diversity. Most of the clothes I’ve seen appear to be for women who wear a lot of busness attire.

I do like that they apply sizing suggestions for all the clothes you look at based on the size you entered. It is also convenient to be able to see what it is that will be sent to in your next box. Having more input in what is sent to you is definitely a plus. Another upside to this service is that you can recycle the same clothes back. You can also keep the clothes for as long as you want. They even dry clean the clothes you send back you don’t have to worry about washing them yourselves. Shipping is also free so you don’t have to worry your pretty little head over that!

I will be sending back both dresses soon, so I will be sure to update you guys on the next set of clothes I receive. If you decide to try this service for yourself let me know in the comments. If there are any other services you want me to try just shoot me a comment with the name of the company. Hopefully you enjoyed this post and it was informative. I appreciate you taking the time to read my blog. Don’t forget to please like, comment, share, and follow me for more content! Tell your friends, family, coworkers, or a random stranger (I’m not picky) to check out my blog as well!

 

 

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QTTH aka Quick Tricks, Tips, or Hacks

Welcome to my new segment which I like to call…*drum roll*.. QTTH aka quick tricks, tips, or hacks. Every week I’ll post a few tips, maybe some tricks, and probably some hacks. It’ll be largely random so don’t expect much rhyme or reason (don’t judge). Instead I’ll be sure to post some things I found have helped me. I might even try some new things and let you know whether they’re even worth trying yourself and possibly give a better alternative for it. With that being said, let’s get into it!

Tip #1:

I don’t know about anyone else but when you eat eggs there is a fine balance between underseasoned and overseasoned: and there is nothing worse than eating eggs that have been overseasoned. Faced with this issue what do you do?! It’s simple! When you crack your eggs and place it in the bowl done scramble them up yet.

They shouldn’t look like this:

They should look like this:

The reason I do this is because I can see how evenly my seasoning is being spread. Now, take a pinch of salt and spring it on each individual egg yolk. You should be able to see how much salt is on each yolk. For me, a pinch and a half is the sweet spot. Take on pinch and sprinkle a little evenly on each yolk. Then take a half a pinch and sprinkle it in the areas around the yolk. Now you can scramble it in the bowl or in the pan itself. You should end up with scrambled eggs that are delicious each time. If they aren’t salty enough for you, add half a pinch of salt more each time until it’s salty enough for you. Since I’ve started doing this, my eggs are seasoned right every time.

Tip #2

Eating healthier is something I think most of us struggle with. One of the first things you learn when changing up your diet is healthier options for what you usually eat. An example of this is substituting ground turkey for ground beef. For instance, if you’re making spaghetti, you would sub out ground beef for ground turkey.

If you’re like me, that’s a great idea in theory, but I am not a huge fan of the taste of ground turkey. Sliced turkey is a wonderful thing but ground turkey as a substitute just feels wrong to me. It’s quite the dilemma. One day I found myself in the grocery store and low and behold I came across beef bouillon. For those of you who do not know, bouillon cubes are cubes of concentrated stock, used for making bouillon. It can also be found in a powder form that is easier to use. Bouillon is

a broth made by stewing meat, fish, or vegetables in water.

In other words beef bouillon and beef bouillon cubes are a wonderful thing that should not be underestimated. I’ve used chicken bouillon cubes in the past but never had a need for beef bouillon cubes. Since you know, I was eating as much beef as I wanted. Alas, a change in my diet meant I needed to cut back on beef. The great thing about ground turkey is that is cooks without hardly any grease (if any) and it’s actually easier to cook with. It takes way more effort to burn ground turkey. Just in case you want to try this tip out and don’t know what you’re looking for here’s an example of what it looks like:

Pictured below is the wonderful beef bouillon in powder form:

You can usually find it in any grocery store but not always in the same section. Typically they can be found on the aisle where seasonings are or broths and stocks.

When you use bouillon you don’t have to use a lot because the flavor goes a looong way. When you incorporate it in your ground turkey be sure to work it in with your hands so that the flavor is spread throughout the meat. DO NOT be afraid to get your hands dirty. The darkness of the bouillon contrasts well with the lightness of turkey so you’re able to see how much you’ve sprinkled over the meat.

You can also try adding a few drops of Worcestershire sauce or liquid smoke. Liquid smoke is a magical bottle of hopes and dreams that does wonders for all sorts of meat but only use it and the Worcestershire sauce for things like burgers, hotdogs, or bbq types of meats. Beef bouillon is diverse in that it can be used for burgers, pasta dishes, turkey loaf, or pretty much anything you would use ground turkey for. I’ll drop a picture of liquid smoke below for you to see:

Last but not least is tip#3:

This last tip is for those of us who use thick lotion like me. With my eczema it is extremely necessary for me to use a lotion with a formula that is thick. It has to be thick so that it lasts long and moisturizes deep. The downside of that is that it’s so thick it’s hard to spread and as a result I use waaay more than I want to. What I find helps me, is using something we all should have in our house and is completely free!

*deep breath* Water

Yes, water! The key is to not use a lot but just enough to help spread out the lotion on water body part you’re moisturizing at the time. I use a spray bottle to make things easier.

What I do is squirt some lotion on my hand and apply to what I’m moisturizing. Once applied, spray the water twice on the area with the lotion and on the places surrounding it that you need to lotion. You can also pour about a cap full of water if you don’t have a spray bottle. Don’t go overboard! You don’t want to thin out your lotion too much since it will defeat the purpose.

Something I also use is oil or oil gel. If you want the benefits of the magnificent glow that oil provides without that extra greasy feeling, I suggest diffusing it with your lotion. Try to shy away from mixing it with your strongly scented lotions. Instead opt for lotions that are unscented or that have a small scent that won’t be very overpowering. All you need a one or two nickel-sized drops in the middle of your palm where your lotion is.

My personal

favorites to use are:

What I love about the last two are that you can use them for hair, nails, and scalp. It’s more bang for your buck and when you use it for your skin, adding it to your lotion stretches it for longer.

I hope these tips for helpful! If so let me know in the comments below. Don’t be afraid to leave a comment if there are any tips you want to request. Also, please like, comment, share, and follow!